I met with a bride yesterday who is planning her wedding for 2010.  Like many people, she postponed her 2009 wedding because of the economy and also because she and her fiancee wanted more time to spread the spend (smart move!).

So in our conversation we got to talking about the guest list.  Her fiancee wants to invite everyone they have known throughout their lives.  She would prefer to keep the guest list to a minimum only inviting those they both know.  “I don’t know what to do!” she said.  So here was my two cents on the matter!

Make a guest list of those people you absolutely HAVE to have at your wedding.  Then make a list of those people you would LIKE to have at your wedding if budget, location, etc, make that possible!  So now you have your minimum and maximum, which is a good place to start in the planning process.

These numbers will allow you to weigh all the pros and cons of locations, caterers, florists (cause 10 centerpieces will be less than 20!), so that you can make smart decisions on the things that are important to you!  If the caterer says they can do a wedding for 150 and a wedding for 200 with the same bottom line, then maybe you do go big and invite everyone (keep in mind that the style of service and type of food would be different though).  Or perhaps you find a location you absolutely love but it only accomodates your HAVES guest list.  Then you make the decision on your priorities there.  But at least you are making those decisions together, and taking each other into consideration.

AND if you have hired a full service wedding planner then they can mock up budget scenarios and tell you how realistic your guest list combined with your budget and all the other special requests you have match up!

Happy planning!